How to be happy

Some of us might have difficulties on how to feel happy for ourselves and others. We may not be happy because of not having enough tender, loving & care (also known as TLC) going around the house i.e. our family is not giving enough attention etc etc. We may not be happy because we don't have real friends to confide with. We may not be happy because of 1001 things that revolves around us. Happy and the feelings of NOT happy according to answers.com are depressed, discouraged, dissatisfied, miserable, morose, pained, sad and sorrowful.

So instead of being depressed of what we are, what we don't have, what we're not capable of and constantly being dissatisfied with our lives why not for once be happy for ourselves and others. The word here is acceptance. Try to accept who you are. Some things we can change only if we're are willing to make change i.e. attitude wise. Instead of complaining here & there and blaming others for what we don't have which is usually called scapegoating. Why not stop and ask...Why am I acting this way? Why am I not happy? Do lots and lots of self-reflection.

Roger Darlington suggestions on how to be happy:-

Keep in close touch with relatives and a small circle of friends. You can't beat their love and support.

Smile a lot. Smiles make you miles better - and you smiling will make others smile. As Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810) put it: “Always wear a smile. The gift of life will then be yours to give.”

Laugh a lot.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty really is the best policy.

Be politely assertive. Say how you feel and explain what you want. Friends and colleagues can't be mind readers.

Surround yourself with pleasant smells. Have flowers, pot-pourri or scented candles in most rooms of the house and in your office.

Stay close to nature. Have flowers and plants in your home and office. Spend time in the garden or local park. Take walks in the countryside and by the seaside.

Eat lots of fruit and vegetables and drink water regularly (but forget that two litres a day rubbish).

Take regular exercise, even if it's only brisk walks. You'll feel better and live longer.

Read regularly and widely. Good fiction will widen your vocabulary and put you in touch with your emotions, while a range of non-fiction will extend your knowledge and interests.

Treat yourself often to something 'cheap and cheerful' that you like - chocolates, flowers, a magazine, a cake, a CD. It costs little and you're worth it.

Cultivate a few favourite places to eat and drink outside the home. Then, when you go to familiar café or restaurant where you like the ambience and the menu and the staff know you, you'll feel comfortable and content.

Stretch yourself mentally. Go on courses on different subjects - they don't have to be academic courses (they can be at your local college) and they don't have to be long (they can be as short as a day or even half day).

Stretch yourself geographically. Go to places you've never seen before. Even in your home town, try taking a different route than usual and notice the different locations that you've never seen before.

Do something you've never done before, like visiting a particular art gallery or museum or going to a ballet or opera (or even just taking a different route to a familiar location). You'll probably surprise yourself at how much love it and you'll have found a new interest.

Keep a diary or journal. It will give structure to your life, an easy way to revisit good times, and a reminder that bad times don't last.

Take lots of photos. You'll love looking at happy times and old friends.

As M People put it in their pop song, "Look for the hero inside yourself". You are someone very special - so you should respect yourself. If you can't, why should anyone else?

However, if you follow all these suggestions and you're still not happy, you're either an android or an alien. In the former case, see an electronics engineer. In the latter case, go home to your own planet.

I would also like to add,

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE - cheerleaders (quote Mrs Yapp). With these positive people will give endless encouragement and support inevitably will lift our spirits.

SEE THINGS IN A POSITIVE WAY.

BE NICE to others.

Always PRAY TO ALLAH.

Always think that EVERY PROBLEM HAS A SOLUTION.

ALSO READ THIS: Happiness: A User's Manual

I think I'm done. This is solely my thoughts & a teeny weeny of internet research if you have any suggestions slash disagreement please don't hesitate to leave a message. Thank you. With that I bid you good day.